Six Years Later…An Update
It’s hard to believe it’s been six years (this month!) since we called it quits here at Pearls and Diamonds.
No, I’m not posting here because we’re reviving this site–it will remain a static resource. But I did want you to know that Abigail is a pretty awesome labor and delivery nurse these days, celebrating new life on a regular basis. And I’m active in the blogging world once again at http://www.KeptandKeeping.com, where you can follow my meditations on life as a woman, wife, homemaker, and homeschooling mama of two energetic little boys and what it looks like for us to follow Jesus each step of the way.
And maybe I’ll twist Abigail’s arm and have her write a guest post for me someday. 😉
Anyway, if we never meet again in cyberspace, I hope we will meet one day in the coming Kingdom.
Grace and Peace,
Lauren Scott
This Website is now a Static Resource
We will not be adding new content.
However, you are welcome to browse the archives and read past articles–and even comment or send us an e-mail!
We may pass good stuff along via the Facebook group, so feel free to join up. Hopefully, someday the Three Weavers will be finished, at which time we’ll share the link to its online home here and in the Facebook group.
That’s all for now, folks!
Young Sisters in Spirit
Our friend, Abigail Otwell, has recently started a discussion board/forum for…our kind of people…you know…young ladies who desire godliness. It’s called Young Sisters in Spirit, and you should visit and sign up and join the discussion. It will be fun! And encouraging.
God Wants Me to Be Happy
Or does He? This is a phrase we’ve encountered often—usually used as a loop-hole to escape obedience—when disobedience sounds like more fun. It’s a lie. From multiple angles. Here are two of our top concerns:
First, our happiness is not God’s primary concern.
Second, disobedience never really makes us happy.
Agree or disagree with either? We’d love to hear your thoughts. Weigh in and tell us what you think.
We hope to cover this issue someday—maybe even soon. In the meanwhile, Mrs. Parunak at Pursuing Titus 2 handled this issue in a pretty straightforward manner in her article “Wouldn’t God Want Me To Be Happy?” We encourage you to take a look at what she has to say.
Things I’ve Learned in the First Year
Posted by Lauren
That’s right. Elijah turned a year old at the beginning of this month. It’s hard to believe. Nathaniel and I have been so blessed by this little gift from the Lord. I feel as though I have grown up faster in the past year than in any other year of my life so far! And we have been delighted to watch Elijah grow up to become an energetic little boy who is about to take off running (once he figures out walking for more than 5 or 10 steps at a time).
I really have learned a TON in this past year. Some lessons have been delightful and funny. Others have been very difficult and perspective-changing. All in all, I am beginning to see how God uses little people to make us adults more like Christ. Here’s what I’ve learned:
- Parenting is a lot harder than I thought!
- Babies need lots of attention. And lots of love.
- My mood affects my son. If I have a bad attitude, his behavior will reflect it.
- Likewise, if I am inconsistent in training him, his behavior will reflect it.
- When friends (seasoned mothers) tell you to cherish every moment with a newborn, because the time will fly by, they’re absolutely right.
- Resting is a major responsibility of a woman who has just had a baby.
- Maternal illness does seem to affect the bonding experience with baby. 😦 Especially when the mother’s illness prevents her from holding her baby comfortably, or from even changing his diaper.
- God doesn’t give us babies for us—as though they exist to fulfill us emotionally or to complete our checklist “What I need to do and/or have to be a godly woman”. God gives us babies to love and train in His ways, and to show us that we need much more training in His ways as well. He gives us children so that we will be made more like Jesus. And so that we can train them to love and be like Jesus.
- Most baby toys are overrated. A nine month old will be very happy with paper, an empty raisin can, and a joyful mama.
- Cloth diapering is so much fun! Really! It is!
- Making sure your baby takes regular naps is very important. When I wasn’t diligent to provide structure and consistent nap times, Elijah wasn’t getting the sleep he needed and it affected him.
- Nursing a baby for the entire first year really is a hard milestone to reach. I wanted to give up so many times! A supportive husband makes a big difference!
- Once you hit the one-year mark and are still nursing and your pre-toddler becomes less and less interested and you can see that your nursing relationship may not last much longer…you wonder why you ever thought of giving up early.
- But once your one-year-old gets sick for the first time and you get to nurse him almost twice as much as usual that day, you think that maybe we can make it to two years… (OK, so I learned that this week, not technically within the first year…can we call that a bonus lesson?)
- Making your own baby food is not that big of a deal.
- Getting outside each day is so so important. The sun, the rain, the heat, the cold…all gifts from God in His time. All to be enjoyed and shared with a baby. (Going out in severe weather not recommended.)
- There is much more involved in training and caring for a young infant than getting them to sleep through the night. Seriously. Try to avoid having the tunnel vision that I did.
- If you didn’t have any “motherly instincts” before having a baby, you may not have too many of them once baby arrives. SPEND TIME WITH BABIES BEFORE YOURS COMES ALONG!!! I had almost no baby experience at all. Praise the Lord we’ve survived!
- To Train Up a Child is a very good book. One I think I will be reading often over the next 20 years or so.
- Kisses from a baby are about the sweetest things ever.
- Infant potty training works. It goes really well until you have a pre-toddler. Then it all goes down the drain. (At least we’re at an impasse right now…) Puns intended.
- Laziness and motherhood do not go together. Don’t even try it.
- Exclusive breastfeeding as a form of birth control does not work for everyone. Not even for a month.
- My husband is an amazing man. I knew this already, but I get to see it in so many more ways now that he is a papa—and husband to a scatter-brained mama.
- Natural childbirth is hard but good. Wouldn’t do it any other way, as the Lord allows.
- Vaccinating in the first year wasn’t necessary for Elijah. No vaccines yet. No sickness yet (until a stomach bug this week…then again, it may have been that I mixed asparagus in with his re-fried beans…). I’m going to guess that breastfeeding is better than any vaccine. (We may consider some vaccines in the future. But we are very happy to have held off for the first year.)
- When the doctor expresses concern over something, don’t panic. Especially if the area of concern is something you lived through (very small baby according to weight gain charts, heart murmur, etc). Ask questions. Ask lots of questions. And don’t worry—trust the Lord. Most tests come back negative. And many doctors who know you have insurance don’t hesitate to recommend testing any little deviance from “normal” or “average”. Sometimes I wonder if it isn’t a liability issue. Just ask lots of questions.
- It would be nice to have had a good understanding of health insurance and/or cost of procedures and services before having a baby.
- Elijah is a little boy. He is all-boy. He loves things on wheels, throwing things, banging things, rough housing with his Papa, making noises, army crawling, climbing, chasing…but he is still a baby, still needs to be held and nursed and soothed when he’s hurt. I love the mix of independence and dependence. So sweet.
- Elijah was fully capable of understanding and disregarding our basic instruction “No” by 8 months old. And he has been testing us to see if we really mean it ever since. 😉 Babies are clever.
- Having someone (a sister-in-law, perhaps) to stay with you and help you around the house during the first week or two after giving birth is absolutely invaluable! And especially while you are waiting for the drugs to kick in to bring your auto-immune disease under control so that you can actually function.
- Rice cereal may not be the best first food for baby. Elijah apparently could have used something with a lot more calories!
- Boppy pillows are great.
- You don’t need a crib or a changing table. A pack-n-play that you got for $40 at a garage sale (thank You, Lord!) will do just fine—and it can be moved easily.
- Hand-me-downs and second-hand are the way to go for baby clothes. Of course, when you’re given new clothes, that is perfectly acceptable, too.
- Elijah was 7 lbs. 9 oz. when he was born. He is 18 lbs. 9 oz. at one year. Not all babies triple their birth weight by one year. And just because they don’t doesn’t mean they are unhealthy. Guidelines are only suggested norms. They do not take into account that every baby is different. My little guy is little, but he is very healthy. Looking at his parents, we shouldn’t expect him to be big!
- I am way more disciplined and diligent now that I have a baby. I wish I had been this productive before he came along! Imagine what I could have accomplished!
- I have no idea how working moms manage. No idea.
- I’ve had many moments where I feel as though I really love my son for the first time. It just grows…
- It’s difficult to accept a debilitating illness as a blessing from the Lord. Especially when it seems to taint what is supposed to be one of the most incredible moments of your life. But God is calling me to trust Him. I know I did not have the right attitude when we found out I had gestational pemphigoid. And I honestly don’t know that I ever really had the right attitude. I of course pray that it will not return in future pregnancies (though that is likely to happen), but I can see now that the Lord had a purpose in it, and He may still be seeking to accomplish that purpose with the same tool in the future. And I will desperately need His grace, His word, His love, His Spirit to endure whatever trials may come and to entrust myself to the faithful Creator in doing what is right–indeed He does all things well!
Any other young moms out there? What has the Lord been teaching you?
*Any opinions shared on medical issues (vaccines, testing, etc) are not intended to tell you what you ought to do. They are simply my own musings over my own experience (as is most of this list). Use your best judgment to care for your own baby.Life.
So, I’m sure some of you have noticed that some things on our blog have been put on hold. It took us quite a while to get around to announcing the winner of the purity ring giveaway, and we haven’t posted anything since then. Why, you might ask?
Life.
It happens. We haven’t put blogging on hold for any determined purpose–no intentional “taking a break”. Just living life in the real world and dealing with our own struggles and relationships and dirty diapers and crazy circumstances and successes and failures and repeated plumbing problems and sick loved ones and baby play dates and and and…
Life is full of joys and sorrows, ease and trials. And we’ve had our fair share lately. It’s been good. And we just haven’t been blogging.
That said, our minds are always churning with ideas, so we can’t stay away forever. So no worries, we’ll get back into it…maybe sooner, maybe later. In the mean time, may Yahweh bless you and keep you, and may He make His face to shine upon you, and be gracious to you and give you peace–as you seek His heart.
The Winner Is…
…Ana Marie
3. I did here: http://bit.ly/bz3XVs
How cool is that? Ana Marie, can you send us your ring size and mailing address? 🙂 Congratulations!
(Sorry for the delay! Sometimes the things that ought to happen outnumber the things that are happening…)
Purity Ring Giveaway
Well, we’ve wound up the posts…and now we’ve got one last thing for you…
Cornerstone Jewelry has generously donated a purity ring for one of our readers! Cornerstone has lots of lovely rings with great messages–we recommend checking them out. In fact, a ring might make a perfect gift or a great reminder of your commitment to purity. The one they’ve donated for the giveaway is sterling silver and comes in whole sizes 5-9 and looks like this:
Cute, huh?
We’ll be holding a public auction…excuse me…giveaway starting now and ending April 9th at midnight. And remember, purity is for married women, too, so anyone can enter!
Here’s how you can enter:
1. Share with us a scripture that has encouraged or convicted you in your purity journey.
2. Share your thoughts or purity testimony on the post “It’s Your Turn!”
3. Share a link to the purity month posts on your blog, facebook or twitter.
4. Subscribe to the Pearls and Diamonds blog by e-mail or in a reader of your choice (see the options in the right sidebar?)
5. Come visit Lauren and me and help us with our housework. Oh! Wait, that’s shamelessly self-serving…never mind.
Giveaway ends April 9th at midnight. Be sure to leave a separate comment on this post for each entry!
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It’s Your Turn!
We’ve spent the last week or so sharing purity stories (in case you hadn’t noticed)…each of us has been walking a path that the Lord has used to teach us the price and value of purity.
Lauren shared that purity in our lives reflects our relationship with the Lord–we’re not supposed to daydream about other lovers, but we’re supposed to love the Lord purely! She also shared that meeting the “perfect” man wasn’t a signal to lay down her arms and give in–it was actually just a stronger call to keep fighting the battle–even protecting her physical purity during her engagement so that she could give herself entirely to her husband on her wedding day! And as a married woman, she shared that the same love that inspires “keeping” as a single woman, inspires “giving” as a married woman.
Megan shared the power of God’s redeeming love as the basis for all purity. With that in mind, pride doesn’t lead us to true purity. She expressed that purity is far more than physical boundaries–that it begins with a pure mind and heart and humility! She also shared how God’s powerful love can redeem even our mistakes and sanctify them for our growth and use them for our blessing! As a wife and mother (with a fifth on the way!), a pure mind and heart are no less important now!
Amy shared that an invaluable secret to protecting “chastity” is godly accountability–particularly parents! Contentment is an act of trust and the foundation for trust is knowing and understanding God’s character–that He is good and gives good gifts. Even when “Mr. Right” entered her life, the Lord still had growth planned for her! And even after her marriage, she has learned that contentment is still an act of trust! The day we trust the Lord is only the beginning of a life of trusting.
Sarah shared the struggle of learning to balance preparation and training to be a godly wife and mother with the commands to guard her heart and keep her daydreams focused on the Lord. One day she came to her parents. “For my entire life you have been grooming me to be a wife and mother. What am I supposed to do, erase 16 years of brainwashing from my head?” She also shared the struggle of balancing a godly friendship with the teasing of “helpful friends” and her own desires for a godly husband. She also shared how we can tend to trust “good things” that the Lord provides, instead of simply trusting the Lord.
Ana Marie shared the importance of filling our lives with the right things–nature abhors a vacuum, and where there is nothing, usually there is plenty of room for stumbling! She shared the value of a tender conscience and also the power of confessing even motives to her father. She also shared how necessary it is to guard our brothers–hearts and eyes–in worship to the Lord.
Abigail shared the danger of creating “high ideals” that are often founded in pride instead of in scripture–since they set us up for failure! God doesn’t promise us our ideal–no matter how we behave. He just commands us to obey Him. She also shared the importance of understanding that both marriage and singleness are pure–and glorify God when submitted to Him. And she shared the the call never changes–regardless of circumstances, pressures or temptations. Purity must start and end in love–love for the Lord first and then love for His people–all of them.
Now it’s your turn! We want to hear how the Lord has convicted you and how you’ve responded to the call to purity! Leave your thoughts and/or post a link(s) to your story in the comments below!
Blessings!
We Interrupt the Regular Scheduled Broadcast
To bring you an update on our comment policy. Our goal is to encourage women to live in worship of the Creator and we’ve intentionally tried to avoid putting ourselves in a place of teaching or exercising authority over men. We seek to be under the authority of our men and encourage the women who read to do the same. Since this is the internet, our words are public for whoever chooses to read them, however we do not wish to engage in debates or controversies with gentlemen about what we have written here. We will not publish or respond to comments from gentlemen which would require us to do either. Ladies, you are more than welcome to challenge or question us. 🙂
Blessings,
The Purity Posts
The purity posts have started! We hope you’ll join us!
Just a note: We’ve tried to be chaste and careful in dealing with this topic, but since the topic is purity, it might be wise to seek your parents guidance in reading these articles.
Finding God’s Will: In Sanctification and Honor
Lust: It’s Not Just a Guy Thing
Purity and the Greatest Commandment: Love and Purity
Purity and the Greatest Commandment: Love and My Heart
Purity and the Greatest Commandment: Love and My Brother
Purity and the Greatest Commandment: Love and Marriage
Purity and the Greatest Commandment: Love and Matchmaking
Purity and the Greatest Commandment: Love and Today
Redeeming Love Pt. 1: Megan’s Story
Redeeming Love Pt. 2: Megan’s Thoughts
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A Valentine’s Challenge/Contest for Single Ladies
If you’re single, Valentine’s Day may bring up a whole host of emotions–especially negative ones. Gretchen at Fashionably Modest Patterns knows just how you feel…and how to solve the problem! She’s hosting a challenge–single ladies only!–to get girls serving instead of swooning and you’re invited to join in! Check out her blog for more details!
Coming Soon: Purity and the Greatest Commandment
Hello Ladies!
We’ve been working hard (more or less) on a batch of purity related posts and are hoping to get it up starting Valentine’s day! Our goal is to include a new post every day–including articles on topics related to purity, testimonies (our own and others), lust issues, poetry, thought pieces, stories and even an audio drama, plus we’ll be winding up with a purity ring giveaway from Cornerstone Jewelers! We’d also love to include trackbacks to your own posts, so keep an eye out for your chance to share your links!
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Now up!
Purity and the Greatest Commandment
Focusing in on the beautiful truth that love guides purity.
Finding God’s Will: In Sanctification and Honor
Lust: It’s Not Just a Guy Thing
Purity and the Greatest Commandment: Love and Purity
Purity and the Greatest Commandment: Love and My Heart
Purity and the Greatest Commandment: Love and My Brother
Purity and the Greatest Commandment: Love and Marriage
Purity and the Greatest Commandment: Love and Matchmaking
Purity and the Greatest Commandment: Love and Today
Redeeming Love Pt. 1: Megan’s Story
Redeeming Love Pt. 2: Megan’s Thoughts
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